YEL 032: Male & Female differences, Siestas & RIP Yisrael Kristal

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  • August 27, 2017
Your Exceptional Life

Thanks for the fabulous feedback from episode 31 – the new and improved “week in review” edition of the podcast!

There’s been plenty happening this week, so let’s get started. Click the video below to watch, hit the play button above to listen, or just read through my notes!

Love & Relationships – The Art Of Conversation

Firstly, thanks to everyone who sent their best wishes regarding Maya and her ANUG. She has made a full recovery which is sensational!

Once the dust settled (and Sarah didn’t feel the need to go to bed at 7:30 each night), my wife and I were able to meaningfully reconnect, and it was just awesome!

It was so simple, yet so beautiful. What did we do (the devilish minds are wandering!) We sat on the bed and talked. Non stop for 90 minutes. No TV, no phones, no nothing. It had been a good 7 or 8 days since we had last sat down to a cup of tea together. I know, how extravagant! But so engrossing had Maya’s ANUG been, that one of us always seemed to be with a child during that period.

Somehow or other we got talking about listening skills, and it reminded me of the video I play often at my events. I’ve posted it here for your viewing pleasure. It’s quite funny, but oh so true!

This is the most watched video on You Tube when people search for “differences between men and women”. You may just want to watch it over and over again. More importantly, authentically listening is a skill worth cultivating and implementing.

Movement – The Power Of CANI

Tony Robbins made the acronym CANI famous (well at least I remember it), and whilst countless personal growth gurus attempt to rip it off, I find it better just ackowledging Robbins work and actually implementing CANI – Constant & Never Ending Improvement.

The feedback from you all on the 100 Push Up challenge I’m currently doing has been great. If push ups aren’t your thing, you could go for this 30-day squat challenge, plank challenge (thank you Pinterest), or Yoga with Adriene’s 30 days of yoga challenge.

All of these challenges are free 🙂 They just take the time (your most important asset), willingness and discipline to do it.

For the record, this is the push up challenge I am doing. I’m currently up to 41 push ups, which means I’m doing 1476 push ups per week (and feeling great).

Nutrition – I love running out of food

We buy our fresh fruit and veg at the New Brighton Farmers Market every Tuesday. Our weekly budget for food is $400. $200 cash comes with me to the market (I purposely withdraw these funds so I don’t overspend, which is so easy to do!), $100 or so goes on meat and $100 on dry goods, etc.

Come Sunday, the fridge and fruit bowl can begin to look bare. And even though it’s tempting to duck down to the supermarket for some apples, eggs, veg, etc, we always make do. Now don’t get me wrong, it’s not like the fridge and pantry are empty – it’s more that the meals we normally make require some creativity.

For example, instead of scrambling 6 eggs (the normal), I might fry four eggs (and Tommy has bits of everyones). Now I could easily go and buy some eggs. But  I don’t. It feels good to be working creatively with what we have rather than constantly just taking the easy option. Of course there are times when I take the easy option (especially if we have run out of tahini and I want one of my raw chocolate pudding cups).

Food highlights for the week were the pizzas Sarah’s made from Get Merry – the cookbook made by The Merrymaker Sisters and this chicken ceasar salad (which I think Sarah just whipped up).

Chicken Caesar saladProductivity – Siestas Are Awesome

Ever since returning from the 100 Not Out Longevity Experience on the Greek Island of Ikaria (click here for details of our upcoming 2018 trip), I’ve been enamoured with the idea of a siesta, but never really made it a big part of my lifestyle.

Now I know, some of you will be saying “I don’t have time” for that or “I can’t do that in my workplace” or “I have kids, a siesta is only a dream”, and I’m not here to address any of those circumstances in the blog. I’m just going to share what, why and how I’ve done siesta’s this week.

My brain was fried

What I’ve noticed since waking up at 5am is that my energy in the afternoon has wavered more than normal. I generally fly out of the blocks in the morning and am on a steady decline in energy from about lunch time onwards. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a walking zombie, I just notice that I have lest zip in me in the arvo.

And I don’t think that’s wrong or bad. I actually believe it’s just my body and mind giving me feedback, and so I’ve decided to listen more than simply “push through.”

So this week I’ve had three afternoon naps. All of them have been driven by a feeling of fatigue, the feeling of my brain feeling fried, as if I have used all of my creative juice and I have nothing left to give.

How I did my siesta

I lay down, played my favourite music from The Shift, and just dozed. I noticed my breathing (and how nice it was to just breathe and have no other stimulation like a phone, laptop), and how nice it was to do nothing!

Some days I fell asleep, some days I didn’t. But what I noticed on each occasion was that my mind came up with solutions to things that were bothering me. Tasks that did not need to be done that afternoon were moved to the next day (which I would do in the morning when my energy was higher), and there were other tasks which were far more suited to my slower afternoon pace.

Each siesta would go between 20 and 25 minutes and I felt so much better afterwards.

Again, I’m not saying I’ll do it every day. I’ll do it more on a symptom type basis. Other afternoon freshen up activities I do from time to time is head down to the beach for a quick dip (3 duck dives in the water and out), an afternoon walk or jog on the beach, or a walk around my neighbourhood (and calling a friend, family or listening to a podcast).

Growth – The value of an apprenticeship

I haven’t read much of Mastery by Robert Greene this week but the part I did read was all about the value of an apprenticeship.

In short, apprenticeships from days gone by would go for 7 years, on minimum wage, with the end result being you graduated from apprentice to master. 

You would learn a lot from the master through observation (the discussion centering around mirror neurons), and progress to practice before truly mastering the skill. This would be in any walk of life – book binder, barber, baker, builder, artist, and so on. What Greene eloquently points out is that the apprenticeship phase of Mastery has become almost taboo in today’s world.

And I tend to agree. With so much focus on “overnight success” and courses which provide you “certification”, we have far too many people promoting themselves as masters when they’ve hardly even dipped their toe in the water of an apprenticeship.

Greene references Da Vinci, Darwin, Faraday and more in his exemplification of the power of apprenticeship. Depending on what phase of life you’re in, this is a thought-provoking topic and one to reflect on in my opinion.

Social – Barber & Friends

Yesterday I had the experience that gives me great appreciation for why women just love going to the hairdresser! I’d had enough of work for one day (if I stared at a screen for a second longer I felt like my brain would explode) and I was due for a haircut before I present for Dr Brett Hill in Adelaide next week.

The added benefit of my barber, Jack The Snipper, is that they offer you a Stone & Wood whilst you have the chop. Jack’s founder, Paul, is a great bloke and an even better conversationalist. It was just so good for the soul to sit down, have a beer, have my haircut, and talk with a like-minded entrepreneur.

I left Jack The Snipper feeling mentally and emotionally refreshed, with a new crop of hair to boot.

It’s just another example of the nourishment that socialising (engaging with other human beings) provides. A siesta wouldn’t have done it, nor would a green smoothie. I needed engagement, and a certain type of it. Thank you Paul 🙂

Wealth – The Power of a Clarity

I mentioned on the last episode the clarity one gets when they have clarity on their financial statement. It’s a snapshot of where you are right now, and truth be told, most people have no idea where they are right now.

In the last week I can tell you that Pearce family net worth has improved by $15K through a mixture of income and a tax bill that was paid off. I don’t say this to gloat (because I have friends who would make this amount of money in 1, 2 or 3 days and I also have friends who would make this in 2 or 3 months!) The only reason why I share the number with you is to display the importance of clarity!

Just know where you are. Our country, in fact our entire globe, will be better off if we have greater financial clarity (therefore increasing awareness and decision-making). You know I love to read. Here are three great books on getting clear on where you are now –

The Richest Man In Babylon by George S Clason (you can read this in a day)

You Were Born Rich by Bob Proctor (same again)

Money by Tony Robbins (give yourself a lot longer – it’s a big one!)

Spirit & Life Purpose – Vale Yisrael Kristal

Rest in peace Yisrael Kristal. The world’s oldest man, who died aged 113 (just one month shy of his 114th birthday), was the oldest survivor of the Holocaust. His first wife and two children perished in the Holocaust, and the only thing that kept Yisrael alive was his life’s purpose – he loved to make confectionary.

Since the Nazi’s also loved lollies, Yisrael was an asset to them, and so he survived, albeit reducing down to 37kg before being liberated. He moved to Israel, remarried and had two more children, and started his life (and business) again.

Devout to his Jewish faith, Yisrael didn’t carry the burden of the Holocaust with him throughout his life. Of course he never forgot his family, but he lived an empowered life, and one that made him an inspiration to all who knew him.

So now for the cosmic joke that sits before us. The oldest human being ever to live on record – Jeanne Calment – drank port wine daily, smoked for 95 years and ate 1kg of chocolate each week, and the oldest survivor of the Holocaust made lollies for a living.

But I thought kale was the secret to longevity?!

Have a sensational week,